As Seniors Celebrate Abundance and Leave Regrets Behind

Seniors, there’s so much to celebrate at our age. Many of you have wonderful children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren. It’s a joy. as we watch them grow and build their own lives. At this point in our lives, this is our focus.

Field of blooms. Source: aesta1

Many of us look back, and instead of celebrating what we have become and have given life, we keep regrets in our hearts. Regret is a life-killer.
Regret is a feeling of sadness or disappointment about something that has happened or that we have done in the past. The more humiliating it is, the more we keep it, hoping that no one among our friends and acquaintances knows about it. Because we keep it, even when we don’t think about it, it is a burden to us whether we are aware of it. Sometimes, we bury it deep down and lose awareness of it.

Then, at one point, a trigger comes, and whoa, we react strongly. We even surprise ourselves at the forceful reaction we have. The trigger can be something someone said, an ordinary comment that everyone else did not notice, but we reacted. Why? Because deep down, we still keep our regrets alive. So, what do we do to let go of this burden?

To overcome regret, it’s important to acknowledge it and learn from it. Here are some things we can do. I’m sure you have your answers to this, having lived so many years. Feel free to add it in the Comment Section. We can all profit from your own experience.

By practicing these strategies, you can gradually overcome regret and move forward with a positive mindset. Remember that it’s okay to seek support from friends, family, or a professional if you’re struggling with feelings of regret. Your Senior years are for you to enjoy.

  1. Acceptance: Accept that you cannot change the past and that feeling regretful will not alter what has already happened. I see it as part of my growth, which has helped me grow, so I am thankful for the experience and let it go. Even if I can’t let it go, it is no longer a burden as I look at it differently.
  2. Learn from mistakes: Use regret as a learning opportunity. Reflect on what happened, identify what you could have done differently, and use that knowledge to make better decisions in the future. We all make mistakes.
  3. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and recognize that everyone makes mistakes. Treat yourself with the same empathy and understanding you would offer a friend.
  4. Focus on the present, on the NOW. Shift your attention to the present moment and the positive aspects of your life. Mindfulness and gratitude can help you appreciate what you have now. When you wake up in the morning and before you go to sleep, thank the Source for everything that will come to you on that day and for everything sent your way by the end of the day.
  5. Set new goals: Channel your energy into setting new goals and working towards them. This can help you create a sense of purpose and direction. It enables you to look forward.

What’s In-Store for Seniors in 2024?

As the new year, 2024, starts, the challenge for us as a community is how to become a more supportive environment for older people. Why is this important?

Seniors Enjoying Company. Source: aesta1

According to the United Nations, the number of people aged 65 years or older will rise to more than double from 761 million in 2021 to 1.6 billion in 2050. Moreover, babies born in 2022 will live 71.7 years on average, 25 years longer than those born in 1950 (those in their early 70s today).

This aging population brings with it opportunities and challenges. Families and communities, not just the individuals concerned, must understand what we will face so it will not catch us unprepared.

Recently, a group of us aged 70 to 80 shared our concerns, and I posed questions to each of us. Who in their family do they see will take care of them once they can no longer take care of themselves? The answers ranged from a niece, a sister-in-law, and a grandniece. Still, I could sense a chink in each of their responses. No one is ever sure, especially when the care demands not only effort but money as well. It depends on the health of the Senior and the caregiver. Also, the Senior’s and caregiver’s wealth will affect the care available. While first-world economies are experiencing the challenge now, in 2050, U.N. data says that 80% of older people will live in low- and middle-income countries. This reality will compound the problem.

If older people are in good health, they have a better chance of living a good life and not being a drain on society. However, data shows that most older adults experience declining health and wealth. Some older people try to work longer or find other work to supplement their income. Those with better financial means often support their children or grandchildren.

This highlights the need for society to ensure that older people live in a supportive environment for their well-being.

What’s being done now? The U.N. has declared 2021-2030 as the Decade of Healthy Ageing. This program “seeks to reduce health inequities and improve the lives of older people, their families, and communities through collective action in four areas: changing how we think, feel and act towards age and ageism; developing communities in ways that foster the abilities of older people; delivering person-centred integrated care and primary health services responsive to older people; and providing older people who need it with access to quality long-term care.”

Norway tops the best care for Seniors, which includes 100% pension coverage and financial security for older adults. It also has the best income and employment rates for older adults. Sweden subsidizes costs for older adults, making them the happiest and most comfortable in their care homes. Switzerland has excellent support for older adults living in their own homes. Switzerland, like Germany, ranks above average in older people’s feeling of connectedness.

Canada has the longest life expectancy of these economies and is trying its best to care for its older population, giving support so they can stay longer in their homes.

Most Seniors want to leave Senior residences. In family-centred countries, older adults stay with their families, giving them a more physically and socially supportive environment. More and more, many families are no longer able to do this. In Finland, foster care homes for Seniors are now municipally licensed and offer an alternative for older people. In Singapore, the government incentivizes families to live close to their aging parents. More models are coming up, and research into how care homes can be improved, as well as technologies to help older people stay in their homes, is taking place in several countries.

We look forward to more improvements in elderly care and well-being in 2024. We hope that Seniors will have the support they need for their well-being. Happy New Year.

Innovative Solutions for Seniors

Whether we like to or not, there will come a time when we will need assistive devices. These devices enable us to do things we have a hard time doing without any of these.

Innovative Solutions for Seniors. Source: aesta1

Recently, we had a get-together with my friends since grade school. A classmate came from the United States and treated us to lunch. We had so much fun, but we noticed all the assistive devices our friend needed to have to be able to do this gathering. She had a walker, a cane, and a seat that doubles as a wheelchair.

Some Seniors do not want to use these devices as they worry about what people say if they go around in a wheelchair. They trade safety for their pride. Our friend had no problem using these devices, but we saw her difficulty. She needed people to assist her, too. Please live in a caring country where family takes care of you and makes it easy for you to go around, but it becomes more challenging if you live on your own. Still, having these devices makes life tolerable and safe.

I remember when my husband first used a walker and a wheelchair. The walker enabled him to go to the bathroom and shower independently, which he liked. We had to practice using the wheelchair so he could go around and go for appointments. 

We all know as seniors that the time will come when a cane is in hand. Some of us can get by with an umbrella, but it is less safe than a cane.

 Here are some examples of assistive devices that can help seniors maintain their independence:

Walkers:

Walkers provide support and stability for seniors who have difficulty walking. Seniors can use these indoors or outdoors, and come in a variety of styles and sizes. Choose one you can use indoors to go to the shower or bathroom or around your house.

Canes:

Canes provide support and balance for seniors who have difficulty walking. They are typically used indoors and come in various styles and materials. Many of my Senior friends use canes outdoors. It is easy to carry. Sometimes, they use an umbrella, but a cane has better stability.

Wheelchairs:

If you are a Senior and cannot walk, use a wheelchair. Wheelchairs come in various types, including manual wheelchairs, power wheelchairs, and scooters. 

I don’t know why some Seniors refuse to use a wheelchair. My mother did not want to use so we can’t bring her out. She refused to be seen in a wheelchair by her friends. We assured her her friends would be happy to see her and won’t mind the wheelchair. 

Mobility scooters:

Mobility scooters are motorized vehicles, so Seniors can go wherever they want. They can get groceries, go to appointments, and enjoy driving. They are typically used outdoors and come in various sizes and styles.

Bathroom safety equipment:

Bathroom safety equipment can help seniors prevent falls in the bathroom. This equipment includes grab bars, shower chairs, and raised toilet seats. It’s good to see many disabled Seniors go around in it. 

Home medical equipment:

Home medical equipment can help seniors manage their chronic conditions. This equipment includes blood pressure monitors, glucose meters, and oxygen tanks. I remember having an oxygen tank at home when my mother was not well. 

Communication devices:

Communication devices can help seniors who have difficulty speaking or hearing. These devices include amplified phones, captioning devices, and speech recognition software. Seniors living on their own can benefit from these devices.

Personal emergency response systems:

Personal emergency response systems (PERS) can help seniors call for help in an emergency. These systems typically include a base unit connected to a landline phone and a wearable pendant or wristband that the senior can wear. If the old presses the button on the pendant or wristband, the base unit will call a monitoring center, which will then dispatch help.

Of course, you can pay for help 24/7 or stay in an assisted living place. However, if you want to stay home, which many Seniors prefer, and live a close to everyday life, these devices will help you. Our wish is that you won’t need any of these. But if you do, use it well.

The Challenge of an Aging Population

Much of the world is aging. This demographic trend presents a challenge not only to policymakers but also to most of us as we deal with our aging, that of our immediate families, and those of our extended circles.

65th Birthday Party. Source: aesta1

Over the next 20 years, Canada’s senior population will grow by 68%. The 75 plus will double. The same is true in other countries.

Indeed, this is becoming a significant concern as many aging adults are also getting sick and demand care beyond what they can do for themselves. This care often falls on immediate family members who also provide and care for their families. No one is exempt from the impact of this growing trend.

I see our growing concern when I socialize with my friends in our seventies. Some are still active and able to care for their grandchildren, although they admit it is becoming more of a challenge. Others already need care as they have difficulty walking alone or remembering things. 

Many of us live on our own and will have to depend on our extended families for care. Some are lucky to have caring nieces or nephews, but most complain that weeks can pass without their extended family members asking how they are. This gripe is often understandable as extended family members work stressful jobs and care for their children and, sometimes, grandchildren. 

Our regular togetherness makes us escape isolation. It gives us companionship, so we try to do it often. Still, the issue of an aging population continues to niggle at us. Some of us feel the what-ifs. What if something happens to them and their mobility is affected? Will they continue to live on their own or be with family members? What if they pass out and no one is around? Will they be dead by the time people find them? What will happen to their dogs and cats who depend on them? These are real concerns for those who are aging. 

Of course, this also impacts the immediate family members. What are they going to do? Will they put their loved ones in a home? Homes for older people are getting scarce and expensive, and many need help to afford to be in them. The affordable ones are not so good that you hesitate to put your family in them. 

If they put them in a home, who will pay if the aged person doesn’t have enough resources? Will they be able to find one? Will it be convenient for people to visit, especially family members who no longer drive?

What about the attitudes of these Seniors? Many who have cared for themselves all these years are demanding as they expect similar assistance. They are not easy to live with and are critical. 

Early on, we need to face these issues. The critical responsibility belongs to the aging person to prepare for this phase in our lives. We cannot leave the burden solely on family members. This preparation consists of:

  • Eat healthy. If we still need to do this, we need to start now. You can even plant vegetables or pots to inspire you to eat what you harvest. Choose to grow vegetables you enjoy eating.
  • Exercise. A family friend who used to vend foot blankets in the town and even adjacent ones reached over a hundred and could still walk alone. My niece, who is overweight, recently took action. She wakes up early, goes to the town plaza, and walks around until she completes ten thousand steps. It is never too late. Start whenever you can.
  • Take care of your finances while you are still able. Learn to save and invest your money so you have enough resources to retire. Many problems are solvable when you have the resources to do so. Don’t be stingy, especially to your possible future caregivers. A friend told me that each time she asks her nephews or nieces to help them with things they could no longer do for themselves, she rewards them. So, each time she calls, they immediately come. This is your investment, too. Another friend who does not do this, her family members, stays out of her calls. Generosity goes far. Take care of them, and they will take care of you.
  • Choose to live close to family members. It is difficult for them to help you when they must take a plane or drive five hours to be with you. Be realistic. It is no longer what you want but what is convenient for people to be with you unless you have all the resources to be on your own and pay for all the care you need. 
  • Choose accommodation that’s easy to live in for an older adult. You may want to stay in your house, but your capacity may need help to take care of it. Ensure you are close to grocery stores, hospitals, your doctor, dentist, and whatever you need most. My friend had her house renovated for easy access when on wheelchairs and when needing care. A room for a caregiver will be helpful.
  • Know more about available care in your community. This care includes those provided by the government and private providers and may cover home visits, transport assistance, and actual care.
  • Please familiarize yourself with Senior homes and what they provide. Know the costs of each service. Read reviews to make the right decision when you need to move there. 
  • Prepare your mind for aging, especially for needing care. At specific points in our lives, we will need maintenance.
  • Make your will and power of attorney for your health with all the instructions you want done.
  • Choose your funeral and pay for it so it will not be a hassle for those left behind. 

Meanwhile, enjoy your life and lobby for better care for Seniors. It is good to get yourself ready so that it may still be painful when the moment comes, but the transition will be smoother.

The Benefits of Direct Flights for Senior Travellers

As winter approaches, my friends and I prepare for our winter trip. Often, this involves discussing what flights to take, which airlines to choose, and whether we take direct versus connecting flights.

As winter approaches, my friends and I prepare for our winter trip. Often, this involves discussing what flights to take, which airlines to choose, and whether we take direct versus connecting flights.

For years now, I have avoided the direct route because only one airline offers it, and I have no desire to choose such an airline. This year, however, I changed my mind. I felt the urge to experience this direct flight.

Flight. Source: aesta1

This direct flight takes almost seventeen hours. This length was the reason why I have always avoided it. I did not want to be on the plane for that long.

However, I took the plunge his year, and the experience surprised me. I’m used to flying, so going on connecting flights has always intrigued me. I like exploring different places and experiencing new cultures, even though it’s limited to airport lounges.

Indeed, I was pleasantly surprised. When I checked in at Terminal 3 in Toronto, I discovered the airline could tag my luggage to my final destination, about an hour from Manila. Because the connecting airline was theirs, the staff also gave me my boarding pass for that flight. 

As we boarded, I saw the long line of wheelchairs. I saw that this flight was a favourite for many Seniors. The more I talked to some of them, the clearer it became to me why many seniors chose this flight. Here are some of their reasons:

  • Reduced Stress: Changing planes can be stressful and tiring, especially for older individuals. Direct flights eliminate the hassle of navigating airports and catching connecting flights, reducing travel-related stress. Most connecting flights in the country are by the same airline, so they facilitate the luggage transfer. Their staff was in the baggage conveyor belt, and all I did was point at my luggage, and they took care of transferring it to my local flight—no stress. With no bags to worry about and having my boarding pass, I took my time, exchanged some local currency, and took the shuttle to the next terminal. Before the flight, I was worried about transferring my heavy bags, especially getting them out of the conveyor belts.
  • Physical Limitations: When I saw the line of wheelchairs, I realized that many Seniors experience mobility issues, and a direct flight helps minimize the physical strain associated with changing planes, walking long distances, or managing heavy carry-on luggage. Thus, many ask for wheelchairs, but I want to move around freely and walk a bit before the flight. I thought of asking for assistance but was glad I did not. The Philippine Airlines direct flight from Toronto to Manila reduced the stress. 
  • Medical Considerations: For seniors with certain medical conditions, prolonged sitting and potential exposure to germs during layovers can pose health risks. The same chances are there during long flights, but you are with the same people the whole time. Direct flights reduce the duration of travel and the associated health concerns. The year before, I had a layover of over seven hours at a time when the Lounge was closed, and aside from Starbucks, only a little was open at the airport. I vowed not to do that again.
  • Predictability: My personal experience showed me that direct flights offer a more predictable travel experience, with a single departure and arrival. I found this very comforting. Once seated on the plane, I relaxed, knowing where I would be after 17 hours. It was a straightforward, less complicated journey.
  • Time Savings: Traveling on direct flights means less time spent in transit, which can be especially beneficial for Seniors who may prefer to minimize prolonged travel periods and maximize time at their destination. Because of the reduction of much of the stress, I arrived happy and ready to go.

So, talking with my friends, I changed my tune. One hesitated to take this flight because she feared the bathrooms would be dirty after a few hours. Not so, as the staff regularly clean them. 

Direct flights are often more expensive, but with reduced stress, it is worth it, especially for older people.

After experiencing this flight, I will not take any other. I talked to some passengers in the Lounge, and they all paid more money to be on this flight, but they still preferred this direct flight. They are primarily seniors, so this is the most preferred route for older adults. 

Seniors and Social Isolation: Understanding the Causes and Mitigating the Risks

Recently, I went to help out a friend who had a double mastectomy. I had to fly out of Canada to the U.S. I realized that getting help from people around us at our age is difficult. Most of our friends also have health issues, If not them, their spouses. A number no longer drives.

At her age of 77, it is difficult to find friends and family who could be with her as most are no longer able, even if they want to help. I saw how much social isolation is a startling reality among many Seniors.

Social Isolation in Seniors. Copyright: aesta1

I also clearly saw why social isolation is a serious concern among seniors. I saw in my friends’ circle the reasons why they live an isolated existence:

  • Lack of Mobility. A number no longer drives and can’t move around quickly. 
  • Losing a spouse, family, and friends can lead to isolation. Much of the news we get every morning is about someone in our circle passing on or having health problems.
  • Retirement. When we retire, we lose not only our contacts but also our sense of purpose and identity. I asked a friend why she continues working when there’s no need for it. She replied that work gives her a reason to get up and dress up. Otherwise, many retirees stay in their pyjamas most of the day. 
  • Health problems. Some of us may have mini-strokes, cancer, or other illnesses and, thus, avoid many social interactions. 
  • Lack of access to transportation. As we age, our confidence diminishes, so we hesitate to drive. Some of us got used to having our spouses drive us, and when they pass on or become unable to do so, we find it difficult to attend social events.
  • Negativism. In several cultures, families are protective of seniors. They are discouraged from going out on their own. They need a companion each time they go out, which limits their attendance to social activities or even just visiting their friends or doing things they enjoy.

Negative consequences often follow as more isolation occurs in a Senior’s life. These include:

  • Depression and Anxiety. In the absence of social interaction, Seniors tend to focus on themselves, and issues around health make them feel sad and concerned. Social activities tend to help them forget whatever discomfort they feel.
  • Loneliness. Seniors who live alone often feel lonely. There are only enough soap operas to keep them entertained. 
  • Cognitive Decline. The lack of interaction limits the use of our mental faculties. Our forgetfulness becomes more intense, and our capacity to do things erodes. Some of my friends have driving issues and need more reminders of familiar routes. Even playing games is less helpful. Interacting with friends engages and stimulates our mental faculties.
  • Increased risks of health problems. Being alone and lonely leads to heart issues and mental breakdown. 

We must take this issue of social isolation among seniors seriously. There are things we can do to address this issue of social interaction:

  • Sharing Accommodation. In some societies, Seniors live with their families. Our friends discussed it with their kids and divided the year between two families. In many Asian cultures, unmarried or widowed aunts and uncles live with families. Their presence is a big help in the kids’ development process. They often help cook or be present when the kids come home from school.
  • Providing transportation. Friends and family can do this to enable Seniors in their families to attend social events. 
  • Becoming part of a group. Seniors can join a club, take a class in a community or senior center near them, or volunteer for important causes.
  • Introducing them to active Seniors defying age-old prejudices so they have models of what is possible.
  • Living in age-friendly communities. If not, create one. You can do much to engage your neighbourhood in becoming friendly and supportive of Seniors.
  • Hiring caregivers who can be with them and provide them with the company and support necessary. Someone who can drive and have a license is a big help.

With a bit of concern, this problem need not be serious. Individuals and communities can help make Seniors in our neighbourhood less socially isolated and more engaged. It is a concern that we can all address.

Aging Gracefully, Laughing Heartily: The Comedy of Growing Older

Life’s too short not to laugh, especially as the years roll on.
Let’s journey through the comical quirks, playful stereotypes, and witty one-liners accompanying our golden years.
Let’s revel in the shared laughter that unites generations and showcases the joy of growing older with a smile.
Let’s take a chuckle-filled ride through the world of age-related humour – where wrinkles and wisecracks go hand in hand!”

Senior Tomfoolery. Copyright: aesta1

Some Senior Tomfoolery will do us good today. I love this term tomfoolery. It is whimsical and playful. It brings to mind
the lighthearted antics and mischievous moments seniors often experience. It embraces the idea that laughter, fun, and a sense of humour are essential ingredients for a fulfilling and joyful life in our golden years.

Whether it’s the occasional forgetfulness, quirky adventures, or witty banter, “senior tomfoolery” celebrates the playful side of aging and the ability to find humour in everyday situations. It’s a reminder that age is just a number, and life can remain full of laughter and whimsy regardless of the calendar year.

I’ll start with these two stories, which you have your versions of. Indeed, here are a couple of funny stories related to age-related humour that you can consider adding to your article:

Story 1: The Accidental Selfie
An older acquaintance, new to the world of smartphones, decided to take a selfie for the first time. She held the phone at arm’s length, smiled at the camera, and snapped the picture. Little did she know, she had the camera set to the front-facing mode. When she saw the photo, she exclaimed, “Who’s that old lady in my phone?” Her family had a good laugh, explaining that the “old lady” was her reflection.

Story 2: The Senior Yoga Class
A group of seniors decided to try a yoga class at their local community center. As they attempted various poses, the instructor noticed one participant struggling with a basic stretch. She asked if everything was alright, to which the senior replied, “I’m fine, dear, but it seems my body didn’t get the ‘flexible in old age’ memo. It’s stuck in ‘pretzel mode.'”

Story 3: The Instagram Moment
A friend celebrating her birthday told us last night at dinner about her Instagram moment. Some at our dinner table saw it, but some didn’t. She even needed to remember where she uploaded it. Was it on Facebook or Instagram? Some of us claimed we did not see it on Facebook, so it must be on Instagram. Anyway, she did a video of herself singing to send to her son, who was away, and this was her first time doing it. Without knowing it, instead of just sending it to her son, she pushed the button longer, and it sent the video to everyone. It started a flurry of comments, which made her realize what she did.

Aside from these stories, we all had our fair share of humorous moments. Have you had any of these?
1. Forgetful Fun: Seniors might playfully blame their “senior moments” when they forget where they put their glasses or keys. Once, I searched the whole house of my glasses, and it wasn’t anywhere. My grandson arrived, and I told him about it. He looked at me and said, You’re wearing them. I looked for my keys once, only to be told that I had them in my hands. You can say, “I used to have a memory, but I forgot where I put it.”
2. Prankster Grandparents: Some grandparents enjoy playing gentle pranks on their grandchildren, like pretending to lose a tooth or pulling coins from their ears.
3. Tech Troubles: Seniors navigating modern technology can create humorous situations, from accidentally taking selfies to sending amusing voice messages. “I asked my grandkid to help me with my smartphone, and now it takes selfies when I sneeze.”
4. Tongue-in-Cheek Wisdom: Seniors often share witty life advice or observations from years of experience, delivering humorous wisdom. A friend called me the other day and said she missed her Mom, who usually came out with these witty comments. She cited this: “I’ve got a new job as a human barometer; my joints predict rain better than the Weather Channel.”
5. Double Entendre: Seniors can craft humour from innocent phrases with a playful double meaning, leaving others in stitches.
6. Senior Gags: Participating in age-related humour, like sharing jokes about aging, wrinkles, or memory loss. “I’m not old; I’m just chronologically gifted.” Or, “I’ve got so many wrinkles; my face is a roadmap of my life.”
7. Unexpected Hobbies: Picking up surprising hobbies like skydiving or rock climbing can amuse friends and family. I met an 80-year-old Japanese lady who went scuba diving. The instructor was with her all the time, but she did not have any issues at all. She planned to climb Mt. Everest after that.
8. Dancing Queens and Kings: Seniors hitting the dance floor, showing off their dance moves, often to the delight of those around them. I remembered an old nun showing us her tango moves during recreation. She was so good at it that we all burst out in laughter.
9. Mischievous Puns: Using puns and wordplay to create laughter and delight in everyday conversations. “I’ve got so many pills to take that I need a pill to remember to take my pills!”
10. Storytelling: Sharing humorous anecdotes from their past can be entertaining and enlightening. “It feels like I was 30 just yesterday, and now I’m the star of my own ‘Golden Girls’ episode.”

These moments remind us that humour and a playful spirit can be lifelong companions, regardless of age. What can we do but laugh? Why worry when we can’t hear each other? Laugh at it.

Whatever Your Dream Is, Go For It

Dreamers, where are you? Buried in security, stability, and safety. Wallowing in wealth maybe, but tired and weary. Yes, millions of Seniors today have given up on their dreams. They go through life doing the same dreary thing day after day. They know it is dismal, but they stick to it. It is familiar, and there is comfort in the expected. Are you one of these?

Dreams. Copyright: aesta1

Once in a while, a desire comes, but rationalizations often cloud such desire. The “what ifs” are so firmly ingrained that somehow, whatever desire comes up immediately is squashed or placed aside on the back burner. 

As early as childhood, our social environment has made us think of security and safety before allowing our desires to get the better of us. Wishes passion are not to be trusted. And we pass on the same to our children as we repeat the often-remembered scripts our parents or grandparents used to say. 

How do we get out of this conditioning and allow our dreams to once more drag us from our safe and secure corners and explore what is unknown and unfamiliar? Here are some suggestions that may work for you:

  1. Listen to the inner voice in you. Our life is cluttered and filled with so much noise that we hear our inner desires and longings, the big things we thought about in our younger years when our social environment had not yet affected us much. We thought we could be Superman, Luke Vader, or Sky Walker. 
  2. Try out new things. You never know some things may interest you if you never try them. Usually, we do something we are used to and know of. But find out about other activities and events and see how you can participate and get engaged. You can be part of so many circles in your life right now that you may be unaware of or have just dismissed all these years. Give it a try. 
  3. Meet new people. This experience is essential for those of you who may have just lived in close circles of family and friends. Try to hang around people who are entirely different from you, and chances are they will bring you to activities you never even thought about or have always dreaded doing.
  4. Educate yourself. New opportunities appear when you learn about other things you don’t know about. Some of those may not have crossed your mind because you had no information about them.
  5. Be aware. Watch your day-to-day activities, which get much more attention and give you more life. Notice what truly matters to you.
  6. Talk about some of the things that catch your attention and engagement. Learn more about it from people, books, and experiences of others. As you get more engaged, watch your reaction, and they give you feedback. If you feel the passion in you building up for whatever you get engaged in, go for it. 

Countless experiences and research have validated that people who pursue their dreams are much more successful in their work and, most significantly, in their personal lives. It’s time to let that dream come true.

Closing Chapters in My Life

Closing the cottage is an annual ritual we go through. It always brings mixed emotions. Of joy we had that summer but also sorrow that we’re leaving it soon and not seeing it for months. After that weekend, my mind wandered to the many chapters in my life that must be closed. I need to revisit them one more time and gently close the doors.

A Chapter in Life. Copyright: aesta1

I do this so I can move on. I have seen friends older than I am stuck in some chapters of their lives and can’t seem to move from there. Repeatedly, they would return to the significant people and events there, focusing their interest on those.

Many Seniors are not able to get out of those. They get stuck often because very little happens in their lives. My older friends and I often laugh at our appointment calendars as they only include doctor’s visits as the most significant event of that month.

When we’re young, we’re busy experiencing things and collecting memories, not remembering them. I know it’s time to let go and have closures in some of my life’s charters. I thought about how to do this. 

I know I have ignored some of these chapters and fear visiting them. Can I handle what comes out of some of these boxes? They’re like boxes in storage; when you open the door, they start falling off, leaving a mess all around. So, I hesitate, but the all is there, and I can no longer ignore it. I need to close these and move on with my life, looking forward to the future.

So, I start by reflecting on which chapters to handle first. Some are easy to accept. I thought about the lessons I have learned from the experience, the growth that took place in me, and the wisdom I have gained from those experiences. Listen to the emotions that arise as you reflect on the chapter. Feel its expression. It helps to talk to a friend with you in that chapter. She can offer a different perspective to help you accept the people and events that confront you from this era. In your journal, write down some of your experiences, noting in particular the attachments that still tie you to this chapter. Continue reflecting on it and slowly accept things that you have ignored before. Then, let go. 

Letting go is often difficult, especially when the attachment to the person or event in that chapter is solid. Create a ritual such as burning letters, pictures, or other significant objects that tie you down and stop you from letting go. Cut the attachment. There is always pain, but this is part of the process. Release your wings as you go through the pain.

Embrace the possibilities now facing you, having freed yourself from the attachment. In my own experience, I have difficulty letting go when I get stuck in friends. I fail to appreciate the new friends that come my way. Only when I let do, I see the new ones coming my way. 

Closing chapters in our lives is a process, not a one-time event. We keep reflecting, accepting, and letting go. A wise sister told me in the past that I could only let go of something once I had taken it as my own. So, owning and letting go continues and embracing possibilities and new chapters. Such is life. Keep living.